Of course, as in the case with almost any relationship, there is a mourning period. Then you move on to better things. Nicer things. Things that are employed and going places with their life.
I personally have continued to grow and mature throughout the course of my relationships, and they have helped make me the person that I am today. So while some people dread seeing their exes, I rejoice. It's a moment that I can say, hey, I'm better, stronger, smarter, and heck, even prettier than I was when I was with you, so thanks. Thanks for helping me move on and grow up.
Everyone should have self confidence. It's a kick-in-the-butt to every person who ever thought you wouldn't make it when you stand taller and prouder than ever before. It's just like being a kid on the playground and being picked on. Nothing says "I'm better than you" than being happy about who you are. Sometimes, we need to fall before we can rise again. You must reach rock bottom before soaring into the clouds. You must reach that moment of hearing people say you can't do something, then standing up, brushing yourself off, and telling them to kiss it. Don't let anyone define who you are.
When I was a junior in college, my advisor told me that I would never make it in the real world. It took a lot of hard work and more strength than I ever knew I had, but a year and a half later, I graduated with honors and am now working full time in a job that I love that falls within my major. So ha. Take that. Don't let anyone tell you who you have to be or what you can't do (within reason...and within the scope of the law).
It has taken a long time, but I have come to realize that my happiness it not defined by anyone but me. I chose whether or not to put my feet on the ground in the morning with a smile on my face. I chose whether or not to let the opinions of others dictate how I live my life. Success is hard work. If it wasn't, everyone would do it.
Whenever someone asks me for advice in a "well, what would you do?" situation, I always remind them that my decision doesn't matter. I don't have to look at myself in the mirror each morning and live with their decision. They do. You must chose to live your life for your happiness, not the happiness of others. There are going to be people who try and judge you. Why? Because they have nothing better to do with their lives than judge others. Take a deep breath and remember that they aren't you. Their opinions are based on fleeting judgements made without taking the time to get to know you.
My advice? Surround yourself with love. Find the people who appreciate you for who you are. Whether it's an obsession with groundhogs or a fear of plunks, I know that I have an incredible group of friends and family who will love and support me no matter what. Sure, they may laugh at me every now and then, but I know that they do it with love.
Be weird. Be unique. Be confident. Be abstract. Be smart. Be crazy. Be artistic. Be adventurous.
Be funny. Be talented. Be athletic. Be gay. Be emotional.
Be yourself.
So this weekend, when I see my former boyfriend and his new fiancé, I can smile, laugh, and know that there is no place I would rather be than where I am right now.
I'll leave you with an incredible poem that is close to my heart.
Dream Big
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If there were ever a time to dare,
To make a difference
To embark on something worth doing
It is now.
Not for any grand cause, necessarily –
But for something that tugs at your heart
Something that is worth your aspiration
Something that is your dream.
You owe it to yourself
To make your days count.
Have fun. Dig deep. Stretch.
Dream big.
Know, though,
That things worth doing
Seldom come easy.
There will be times when you want to
Turn around
Pack it up and call it quits.
Those times tell you
That you are pushing yourself
And that you are not afraid to learn by trying.
Persist.
Because with an idea,
Determination and the right tools,
You can do great things.
Let your instincts, your intellect
And let your heart guide you.
Trust.
Believe in the incredible power
Of the human mind
Of doing something that makes a difference.
Of working hard
Of laughing and hoping
Of lasting friends
Of all the things that will cross your path.
Next year
The start of something new
Brings the hope of something great.
Anything is possible.
There is only one you
And you will pass this way but once.
Do it right.
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